Dealing with Hate: Insights from a Seasoned Content Creator
One of the greatest challenges of being an online content creator is tackling the relentless wave of negativity and insults that come your way. Over the years, I've been called unimaginative names and subjected to harsh criticisms that could tear down anyone's spirit. I've been called flat, worthless, and unlovable—which were tough to swallow initially. But over time, my skin has gotten thick.
Experiences With Harsh Criticism
Criticism comes in many forms, and some of it can be downright hateful. I've had someone tell me I'm a whale just because I wouldn't provide free content. Another subscriber expressed disgust when I set boundaries about what I can physically handle, suggesting insensitively that I should 'stretch' in preparation for childbirth. Their lack of empathy was shocking.
Here are some more disturbing interactions I’ve had:
- A man online told me my body reminded him of his young daughter, and in the same breath, he asked for personal photos.
- Another was so offended by a natural body function during a live stream that he created multiple accounts to continue harassing me after being blocked.
- I'm frequently body-shamed, receiving comments about needing a treadmill or being called saggy and smelly.
- Disturbingly, one comment even went as far as to say my children would suffer because of my career choices.
How I Manage the Hate
Despite the barrage of negativity, I've developed strategies to stay strong and keep creating content that makes me proud. Here's how I manage the hate:
- Setting clear boundaries: I communicate clearly what is acceptable in my interactions and swiftly block and report those who cross the line.
- Focusing on supportive community: I cultivate and cherish the positive interactions with subscribers who appreciate my work and respect my boundaries.
- Self-care and resilience practices: Engaging in activities that boost my mental health and resilience helps me handle criticism without it affecting my self-worth.
The Reality of Online Exposure
Being a content creator exposes you to a wide audience, which includes inevitable critics. Some hide behind their screens, using anonymity as a weapon to spread negativity. However, understanding that their comments reflect more about their insecurities and personal issues than about my worth as a person or a creator has been crucial.
Encounters with hate are a downside of the job, but they have pushed me to develop a thicker skin and a stronger sense of self. Sharing these experiences helps highlight the reality many online creators face and, hopefully, encourages a more respectful and empathetic interaction in online spaces.
